Is a woman who calls herself a BBW vain?

I read a post recently regarding women who call themselves a BBW being vain. (For anyone not in the know, BBW is an acronym for Big Beautiful Woman).
Now even though I have given this a bit of thought over the last few days, for me the jury is still out. I guess I'm kind of sitting on the fence in this case.

Part of me wants to cheer these women for accepting themselves for who they are and how they look, and for wanting the rest of the world to know that even big women are beautiful. I couldn't agree more and wish the fashion mags and catwalks would get on this bandwagon and stop brainwashing young girls and teenagers into believing they must be skin and bone to be perceived as beautiful. Frankly, I don't see anything beautiful about looking half-starved but try to tell most teenagers that!

On the other hand, how often do you hear someone refer to herself as SBW (as in Skinny Beautiful Woman)? And what if you're not Big or Skinny but somewhere in between? Are you then a SIBBW? And what about if you're really ugly? Can you still use one of these acronyms?

The truth is, not all Big woman are beautiful, just as not all skinny woman are, and I'm not just talking looks. It really is what's inside that counts, and I reckon there are a hell of a lot of beautiful looking woman (and men too) that are so ugly on the inside their external beauty pales in significance.

So, back to the original question; is it vain to refer to yourself as a BBW? I'm leaning toward thinking it's not. Afterall, if you don't see the beauty in yourself, then how will others see it in you? Should we not be proud of who we are, what we have achieved, and how we treat others? Is that not what makes others want to know us, spend time with us, and love us? Is society so shallow that these things are less important than our looks?

The other thing that concerns me with the use of the term BBW is this; Why do women feel the need to label themselves as one thing or another? Is it really necessary to pigeon-hole everyone? Can we not just be who we are without having to be in some kind of category?

Seriously, there is only one category that is actually relevant to us all and that is : Human Beings. That should be the only one that matters.

What makes a person sexy?

So....what does make a person sexy? Is it the clothes they wear (or don't wear, perhaps) or the way they style their hair (assuming they have hair, lol) or is it more than just the look?

I suspect it is a combination of things, but the major component to being SEXY is, in my opinion anyway, ATTITUDE. Combine attitude and confidence, and you've got sexy down pat!

Having realised that sexy is an attitude and not an action, has helped me to also realise that sexy doesn't necessarily mean slutty. One does not need to be naked or dressed in revealing clothes in order to be seen as sexy. In truth, covered from neck to knee can be more sexy than naked is, provided you are wearing the right attitude, and wearing it with confidence.

I'm sure we can all think of someone we believe is sexy, without having to think too hard. The first sexy guy that comes to mind for me is Michael Hutchence (INXS frontman, sadly no longer with us). From the first time I laid eyes on him, way back in my teens, before he became famous, I felt he positively oozed sexiness. He wasn't necessarily the most handsome man on earth, with his greasy hair and pock-marked skin, but my god! He was sooooo sexy that I just went all gooey inside whenever I saw him. Now none of this had anything to do with him being famous; like I said, I thought he was hot before he was famous. He just had IT.

See what I mean? He's not overly handsome, or physically built like Mr Universe (in fact, he's quite thin), yet he totally oozes sexy!

I rest my case! lol Actually, he is just one of many people that can take the title of "sexy". Sexy people come in all shapes and sizes, and from all walks of life. One doesn't have to be famous, or beautiful, thin or have long flowing hair, because none of those things are relevant when it comes to being sexy. The only thing you need is attitude and confidence, and the only way to get that, is to be comfortable in your own skin and with who you are - not what you look like. (I hope you read my first blog, as it is all about Self-image).

Truly, everyone has the ability to be sexy, without having to be cheap or slutty. Male or female, makes no difference. If you want to be sexy, then love who you are and what you are made of, and wear yourself proudly. The rest will follow on automatically.

Oh, and by the way.......you can be sexy without having to act on it, so just enjoy the attention it brings and bring sexy back for everyone!

Catch ya next time!
Kazz