I read a post recently regarding women who call themselves a BBW being vain. (For anyone not in the know, BBW is an acronym for Big Beautiful Woman).
Now even though I have given this a bit of thought over the last few days, for me the jury is still out. I guess I'm kind of sitting on the fence in this case.
Part of me wants to cheer these women for accepting themselves for who they are and how they look, and for wanting the rest of the world to know that even big women are beautiful. I couldn't agree more and wish the fashion mags and catwalks would get on this bandwagon and stop brainwashing young girls and teenagers into believing they must be skin and bone to be perceived as beautiful. Frankly, I don't see anything beautiful about looking half-starved but try to tell most teenagers that!
On the other hand, how often do you hear someone refer to herself as SBW (as in Skinny Beautiful Woman)? And what if you're not Big or Skinny but somewhere in between? Are you then a SIBBW? And what about if you're really ugly? Can you still use one of these acronyms?
The truth is, not all Big woman are beautiful, just as not all skinny woman are, and I'm not just talking looks. It really is what's inside that counts, and I reckon there are a hell of a lot of beautiful looking woman (and men too) that are so ugly on the inside their external beauty pales in significance.
So, back to the original question; is it vain to refer to yourself as a BBW? I'm leaning toward thinking it's not. Afterall, if you don't see the beauty in yourself, then how will others see it in you? Should we not be proud of who we are, what we have achieved, and how we treat others? Is that not what makes others want to know us, spend time with us, and love us? Is society so shallow that these things are less important than our looks?
The other thing that concerns me with the use of the term BBW is this; Why do women feel the need to label themselves as one thing or another? Is it really necessary to pigeon-hole everyone? Can we not just be who we are without having to be in some kind of category?
Seriously, there is only one category that is actually relevant to us all and that is : Human Beings. That should be the only one that matters.
Now even though I have given this a bit of thought over the last few days, for me the jury is still out. I guess I'm kind of sitting on the fence in this case.
Part of me wants to cheer these women for accepting themselves for who they are and how they look, and for wanting the rest of the world to know that even big women are beautiful. I couldn't agree more and wish the fashion mags and catwalks would get on this bandwagon and stop brainwashing young girls and teenagers into believing they must be skin and bone to be perceived as beautiful. Frankly, I don't see anything beautiful about looking half-starved but try to tell most teenagers that!
On the other hand, how often do you hear someone refer to herself as SBW (as in Skinny Beautiful Woman)? And what if you're not Big or Skinny but somewhere in between? Are you then a SIBBW? And what about if you're really ugly? Can you still use one of these acronyms?
The truth is, not all Big woman are beautiful, just as not all skinny woman are, and I'm not just talking looks. It really is what's inside that counts, and I reckon there are a hell of a lot of beautiful looking woman (and men too) that are so ugly on the inside their external beauty pales in significance.
So, back to the original question; is it vain to refer to yourself as a BBW? I'm leaning toward thinking it's not. Afterall, if you don't see the beauty in yourself, then how will others see it in you? Should we not be proud of who we are, what we have achieved, and how we treat others? Is that not what makes others want to know us, spend time with us, and love us? Is society so shallow that these things are less important than our looks?
The other thing that concerns me with the use of the term BBW is this; Why do women feel the need to label themselves as one thing or another? Is it really necessary to pigeon-hole everyone? Can we not just be who we are without having to be in some kind of category?
Seriously, there is only one category that is actually relevant to us all and that is : Human Beings. That should be the only one that matters.
1 comment:
BBW is also used for Big Breasted Woman,as was told to me by one of these wondefully informative men on a dating website. However I agree beauty comes from within, and we should accept we all come in different packages.
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